Don't stress they say all will be fine????

So on Wednesday J had a few tests done at the audiologists because I was concerned about his language and lack of it. Last winter he had them constantly and they were one ear infection away from sending him straight to an ENT but he never got that last ear infection and then has had 2 this winter.Anyway because of his lack of words we finally had a take him no matter what if they can't get a result they can get you into an ENT quicker given his history. So Wednesday was the day. J was so well behaved charmed everyone with his cheeky grin and bow legged run. Went into the testing room and he was J that's all i can say. We then went into a different room for the tympanometry test and the audiologist says (with a concerned look on his face) "well i don't know if J had lost concentration but he wasn't responding to the high pitch sounds but did to the lower and the tymp test shows no obstructions" OK soooooo now what. "Well (he continues) I would like to review him in 2 weeks and we will see how his results go to how we go about it. There is definitely language delay we just need to find out if it is something wrong with his ears or something else. So it could be a language delay or we could be looking at Austim/aspergers along those lines." OMGWTF AUTISM really????? Well I know from research and friends and therapists that aspergers would be ruled out because LANGUAGE DELAY if there is a language delay then a child will be diagnosed as high functioning autism. What is one word you shouldn't mention to a mother who has 1 on the spectrum AUTISM. I was so relieved L and E have not signs of special needs. But J will have this label for the rest of his life on all medical reports it will say Language delay in infancy. When we send him to kinder it will say ti even if we catch up. Needless to say I spent most Wednesday night in tears and just wanted to be alone. Yesterday was not much better(L went to kinder willingly but that's another story) I just want to be left alone but not. I remember I was like this when B first visited the paediatrician and she mentioned Autism. Even though we knew something wasn't right it was still a shock to be told something is wrong. You expect everything to be in your head a fussy mum and then to hear it BAM. Everyone's attitude to the news is he will be fine he is the youngest of 4 he will catch up when he's ready. What they seem to miss is the sounds it's all in the sounds. You listen to his babbling and it isn't too elaborate where as all the other toddlers at this age could rattle of what was to them a huge story. Son't stress they say all will be fine?? Really how do they know and what makes them think this is helping me! No one will get this except someone who has had the same thing go on for them. I just want to help him.